GLS15: Session 3b Dr Brene Brown
Global Leadership Summit 2015 Session 3b Dr. Brené Brown Rising Strong “The story that I’m telling myself now is…” - What is the emotion that comes up when we try to connect with someone and reach out…Shame anger is secondary emotion that always covers up some other emotion Number one shame for women: body image Number one shame for men: appearance of weakness and number one perpetrator is women when someone shares something sacred with you and then you use it back to the person it is incredibly hurtful…an unholy act We need to be able to share: - Here’s what scares me. Here’s what I’m afraid of. We want more love and vulnerability. This can only happen by being more vulnerability. our brain is hardwired the instant something bad happens to make up a story about what is happening. If we can do that, we get a chemical reward. It rewards us whether the story is true or not. - stories with limited data points filled in with values and ideals is a conspiracy the middle space: when you start something and are too far in to turn around and not able to see the end (the point of no return) - what people do in that space is what separates leaders from non-leaders this is where leadership is born and courage is formed this is a lonely and hard space experience gives us a little bit of grace to let us know we have done it before and can get through 3 things to go through - the reckoning: be able to recognize that something is happening in my feelings and identify them – something’s got me hooked and I’m willing to do something about it – Transformational Leaders: - do discomfort, real discomfort emotional awareness about themselves and the people they work with – emotion dictates change (we are emotional people who sometimes think) sit with someone and say “help me understand” the rumble (rumble with emotion) - be willing to walk in and be brave should have a value in truth with what is true and hard choose courage or comfort…can’t have both the revolution - this becomes part of what we do “When we deny the story it defines us. When we own the story we can write the ending.” it takes courage to tell people the story we are telling ourselves about challenging problems or situations and hear from them the bravest among us are those who are the broken hearted the physics of vulnerability are straight-forward–if you are brave enough often enough you will fail. Find a way to lean into each other and find a way back up. The risk is worth it. Originally published on stephen.braunius.org
