GLS15: Session 3b Dr Brene Brown

Global Leadership Summit 2015
Session 3b
Dr. Brené Brown
Rising Strong

  • “The story that I’m telling myself now is…”
    • What is the emotion that comes up when we try to connect with someone and reach out…Shame
    • anger is secondary emotion that always covers up some other emotion
  • Number one shame for women: body image
  • Number one shame for men: appearance of weakness and number one perpetrator is women
  • when someone shares something sacred with you and then you use it back to the person it is incredibly hurtful…an unholy act
  • We need to be able to share:
    • Here’s what scares me.
    • Here’s what I’m afraid of.
  • We want more love and vulnerability. This can only happen by being more vulnerability.
  • our brain is hardwired the instant something bad happens to make up a story about what is happening. If we can do that, we get a chemical reward. It rewards us whether the story is true or not.
    • stories with limited data points filled in with values and ideals is a conspiracy
  • the middle space: when you start something and are too far in to turn around and not able to see the end (the point of no return)
    • what people do in that space is what separates leaders from non-leaders
    • this is where leadership is born and courage is formed
    • this is a lonely and hard space
    • experience gives us a little bit of grace to let us know we have done it before and can get through
  • 3 things to go through
    • the reckoning: be able to recognize that something is happening in my feelings and identify them – something’s got me hooked and I’m willing to do something about it – Transformational Leaders:
      • do discomfort, real discomfort
      • emotional awareness about themselves and the people they work with – emotion dictates change (we are emotional people who sometimes think)
      • sit with someone and say “help me understand”
    • the rumble (rumble with emotion)
      • be willing to walk in and be brave
      • should have a value in truth with what is true and hard
      • choose courage or comfort…can’t have both
    • the revolution
      • this becomes part of what we do
      • “When we deny the story it defines us. When we own the story we can write the ending.”
  • it takes courage to tell people the story we are telling ourselves about challenging problems or situations and hear from them
  • the bravest among us are those who are the broken hearted
  • the physics of vulnerability are straight-forward–if you are brave enough often enough you will fail.
  • Find a way to lean into each other and find a way back up. The risk is worth it.